Category: Personal Wisdom

I have decided to begin a new project for my blog and my life.  In addition to attending services at my local church (Norton Presbyterian Church) I will visit churches across our great nation.  I will start out visiting other churches in my immediate area then as time allows, visit those further away.

What I hope to achieve by doing this.

  •  To fellowship, unite and connect with believers from diverse backgrounds, denominations, social standings and ways of life.
  •  To encourage others and receive encouragement so that our faith may grow.

The apostles traveled to teach and provide guidance during the infancy of our religion.  I would emulate that same attitude but for the purposes identified above.

It is always a wonderful experience to meet new and exciting people.

I would love to visit your church and eagerly await an invitation.  🙂

That’s what is on the mind of one individual from Kentucky Avenue in the smallest city in Virginia, Norton.  See you soon!

Something came to me today just as I walked in the door from Karate.  A pretty crazy idea I might say and I guess I’ve decided to find out what everyone else thinks about it.  Please post your comments here and/or on facebook.  Can’t wait to hear em.

Scenario #1  The Tornado

A tornado rips through a community causing massive damage.

Question 1:  Should the Federal and/or State Government aid the people devestated by the tornado in any way?

Question 2:  Should the percentage of people who have insurance affect the government from providing aid to the people?


Scenario #2  Cancer

Instead of a tornado, suppose the same people were all afflicted with cancer but over a course of years.

Question #1  Should the Federal and/or State Government provide aid to these people?

Question 2:  Should the percentage of people who have insurance affect the government from providing aid to the people?


I don’t believe there is a right or wrong answer to any of these questions.  They’re just your answers (unless they are blatantly stupid answers).  The reason I ask this question is because of a revelation I had as I stepped through the door coming back from karate.  Our country is a patchwork of people and ideas.  Our government is also a patchwork, made up of ideas from these diverse people.  In our society it is completely accepted that when a natural disaster happens, our government is obligated to help the victims out in a very significant way.  However if those exact same people were afflicted with some type of ailment over a period of time  I can guarantee you that the government would give a minimal amount of aid at best.  Do you see a contrast here?  It might as well be, if you’re on the right side of the line and something happens to you that is out of your control then we’re not helping you.  However if you were on the left side of the line then of course we’ll help you out 🙂

Ultimately the question is what role the government should play in peoples’ lives.  I don’t believe there is a right or wrong answer to the question.  It’s just a matter of opinion.  My biggest problem is the inconsistency people show in the belief of how our government should run.  Don’t say one thing in one situation then something completely different in another.

The last word:  I can guarantee you that a lot more people suffer financial or fiscal hardships each year due to health reasons than natural disasters.

That’s what is on the mind of one individual from Kentucky Avenue in the smallest city in Virginia, Norton.  See you soon!

Fleeting Enjoyment

Just had an idea to share with you good folks.  It came to me as I was commenting on a friend’s facebook post.

“Why is it so easy to do bad things when the good things in life are so hard to achieve?”

That’s a pretty common question actually but one that needs to be tweaked slightly in order to provide a good answer.

“Why is it so easy to give in to temptation and so difficult to live by a moral code?”

I think this is a better phrasing of the question because there are good things that can be achieved with little work.  A nice word to a friend, a helping hand or a simple kiss are all good and easily done.  In order to do these things, one must have already built up a strong character through hard work and resisting temptation.

The truly good things in life that define us as men and women of true character are difficult.  It is by perseverance and will that we grow as individuals.  There is an intrinsic property of things with value in this life, that effort is required to obtain them.


How easy is it to sit around all day, not exercising and eating junk food?  I shouldn’t have to answer that 🙂  If you want to loose weight and built muscle it takes resisting these temptations in order to do it.

Temptation is an easy path from beginning to END.  I emphasized “end” because following the path of temptation has a definitive end..death.   Living a just life is difficult however there are the occasional easy parts and a major payoff beyond this life.


I believe there are 3 different kinds of people in this world.  First are the impetuous, brash individuals who go after what they want no matter the cost.  Second are the quiet, shy people who are very reserved and rarely exert their will in this world.  The third group lies evenly in between and is the focus of this post.

“Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed.”  1 Peter 1:13

So what is being self-controlled anyway?  That’s easy of course.  It’s keeping yourself from doing something rash or impulsive, using your will to reign in your uncontrolled desires.  Well yes, but only for the first type of person I mentioned.  Self-control is not one-sided.  The second type is on the opposite end of the spectrum.  For this group self-control means exerting your will in a situation which may result in embarrassment, failure or one which induces a great amount of fear.

The third type of person lies evenly between these two other groups.  They must learn to keep their actions and thoughts in balance.  This is a state I believe we must all strive to achieve.  In some instances being shy or impetuous can have it’s advantages.  However, those who display this behavior too frequently all too often end up having a much tougher time in life.  Why, because we don’t learn from our actions.  If we are prone to always being shy we will always be afraid to take chances and live our life to the fullest.  If we are prone to being brash and headfirst you’ll experience all that life has to offer but make many mistakes in the process that can lead to regrets.

Rather than being at the extremes we should strive for that middle position.  There we have the greatest potential for the best life possible.  The verse I mentioned from 1 Peter sums it up pretty good.  Follow those three steps and things will be much easier and more rewarding, I guarantee.


That’s what is on the mind of one individual from Kentucky Avenue in the smallest city in Virginia, Norton.  See you soon!


This is a wake up call to everyone out there to get out and experience the world.  As Americans we spend so much of our time in indoors, watching television, surfing the internet, etc…  There is nothing wrong with these pursuits but spending too much time on them is not good.  Why?  The entire world is out there, waiting for you to interact with it.

Ever thought, “I wish I had done ?”.  If you have and not done anything about it then guess what?  You should get used to that question because you’ll be asking it more and more as you get older.  You’ll have accumulated a lot of regrets, what-ifs and should-have-beens instead of remembering all of the exciting things you did in your life.

Get out there and meet new people.  Make friendships that will last.  Find that special someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I made the decision this year to get off my butt and live.  I learned to drive a stick-shift, take yoga classes, karate classes and went hiking and mountain biking more often.  I don’t regret a single choice and I feel each of these things have made me a better person.  Everyone has things they have wanted to do all their lives.  Well get out there and do it!  You only have yourself to blame.

What does the future hold for me?

I will spend a week in Yosemite National Park next year.

I will go snowboarding this winter.

I will go to more concerts.

I will make new friends.

I will conquer my fears.

I might even go skydiving.

I will come away with experiences I will never forget.  Memories I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Live life like today might be your last on earth (enjoy every minute of the day) but you’re pretty sure you’ll be around for a bit (don’t forget to save for the future).

What do you want to do and why haven’t you made plans to do it?

That’s what is on the mind of one individual from Kentucky Avenue in the smallest city in Virginia, Norton.  See you soon!


What is any relationship without acceptance?

For truly all of us are not without our faults and quirks.

Are you one who says, “You must change this for us to be friends?”.


Are you one who says, “I accept you as you are, faults and merits alike?”.

For how can a relationship last when you cannot let go of that compulsion to change?

It will gnaw at you every minute of every day, never letting you have peace.

Rather than seek change, love the person for who they are knowing they are not perfect.

Then you might have a relationship built upon solid stone, such that turbulent times and terrible arguments cannot tear you apart.

Live for the present

I already have a post titled “Focus on the Present” but I felt I needed to go into a bit more detail so here goes….

We all either spend too much time looking back at the past or forward to the future.  There is a very real danger in doing so that may not seem apparent.

Looking backwards too often either fills our minds with the “could have beens” and “should have beens” or we compare past accomplishments to those of today.  Often times these past accomplishments always appear to be impossible to top, that we can never do better than we did then.  Those are the dangers of the past.  Your reward for such thought is resentment and depression.  Our past is a great reference.  It should help us to make decisions in the present, not eat up our present with worries and regret.

The future poses serious problems as well.  It is very easy to become obsessed with something cool that we’ll be doing or how things will be better on a certain date.  The problem with this?  We continually sacrifice our present for a future that may not come.  That brings me to….

The present.  Both the past and future are abstract thoughts.  The past existed but is no more, the future will exist in one form or another but the present does exist! You can only accomplish things in the present.  You can only enjoy life, experience life and love in the present.  If you are not living for the present then you are completely missing out on life.  You may not be here tomorrow, the day after or 10 minutes from now.  Get up, commit yourself to something you like doing or need to do.  Focus on the now.  You cannot accomplish anything in the past and you may not be around in the future.  You are here right now.

Now that I’ve made my point let’s look at the dangers of the present.  These are the root of all our problems in life.  I’m going to boil them down so you can see how simple and silly they are truly are.  That’s right, I’m saying our greatest problems in life are silly.

Rid yourself of fear and doubt and all things will be possible for you.  What is stopping you from learning to drive a car with a standard transmission?  What is stopping you from asking that woman out on a date?  You are!  Fear and doubt are only words to describe our inability to live our life.  Either except the fact that you’re too scared to live your life (which means you’re wasting it) or do something about it.

I was unable to drive a standard

Look at that statement (about myself).  Most people would think that something was preventing me from driving a standard but it’s not stated.  Well you’re wrong because it’s clearly stated.  ‘ I ‘ was what prevented myself from driving a standard.

Even if we say someone kept us from doing this or that it is still our choice to listen to them.

So and so said I couldn’t or shouldn’t do it so I didn’t do it.

You are an adult (I hope) and capable of making your own decisions.  Make it and live with the consequences.  What is worse, making a bad decision and suffering the consequences or making no decision at all and suffering the consequences?  I can guarantee you that more good will come out of making decisions and living for the moment than doing nothing at all.

Happiness and contentment in life can be achieved through living in the present without fear or doubt.  Reaching that goal can be a very daunting task.  I began to set my foot on the path to happiness when I became a Christian.  There is a lot of help that can be given to us if we put our faith in Jesus.  The New Testament is full of quotes of Jesus telling us to not be afraid and to follow in his footsteps.  To follow we must we walk, not have walked (past) or will walk (future).

Have fun in your life, make bad choices, laugh, cry but live your life.  Don’t put too much faith in the future or wish for the past.  Those are empty paths with only oblivion as an end.

Focus on the present

Do not be overly concerned about the past or future.  Rather stay focused on the moment so that you do the most good you possibly can.  Use the past as a guide for the present and keep the future as a goal you strive to achieve.

That’s what is on the mind of one individual from Kentucky Avenue in the smallest city in Virginia, Norton.  See you tomorrow!